BackThe Wonder of Grandchildren
By: Rabbi Dr. Abraham Unger
Much of the literature on raising children focuses on parenting, yet the role of grandparents is little discussed. However, in each of our families, we understand the significance of grandmothers and grandfathers. They are not only the repositories of history and rootedness; they can be the beloved alternate set of parents that complements the parents’ work, providing refuge to parents and children alike in offering the warm embrace of familial continuity.
The Torah in its wisdom recognizes this central role of grandparents in the upbringing of children. This week’s parsha opens with Jacob blessing his grandsons Ephraim and Manasseh. These were Joseph’s sons, the first Jewish children born in the Diaspora, outside the land of Israel and far from centers of Jewish life, but their grandfather Jacob claimed them as his own, and was their role model. Indeed, right before he passes, Jacob blesses them and states in no uncertain terms that these two Egyptian grandsons of his are “considered to be mine.” Rashi comments that Jacob was indicating that Manasseh and Ephraim too will get portions of the land of Israel, just as Joseph’s brothers will. I can only imagine how these two boys felt when getting their final blessing from their grandfather.
We live in tumultuous times. The world is changing faster than anyone is able to predict. It is not only technology. Social structures and institutions are transforming. Our children need a sense of security more than ever, and grandparents fulfill that precise role. Jacob’s blessing to his grandsons is a much needed chapter in the way we think about parenting and family.